Thursday, September 23, 2010

Was it good for you?


"Let’s talk about sex baby. Let’s talk about you and me…Let’s talk about all the good things and the bad things that may be. Let’s talk about sex…" Salt -N-Pepa knew what was up. As a romance writer, talking about sex is an integral part of what I do. Last week, as I stared at my author copy of Game, Set, Match and reflected on my debut release, a thought suddenly occurred to me….People are going to read my book...sex scenes in my book. People I know. People like my mother and mother-in-law.

I still remember my ten year old first foray into the romance aisle at the bookstore. Curious about the bright glossy covers with half naked men on them, I picked one up. Let’s just say my mother was not amused. The tongue lashing I received was enough to make me stay away from that aisle for a good long time. You’d think I was looking at a Hustler magazine or something and not some corset clad historical heroine. In that moment, I was old enough to understand that romances were something to be hidden, because, gasp, they contained “the sex” as my mother called it.

Granted ten is a little young for purple prose, but the moment I was old enough to make my own reading choices, I devoured romances. But not because of my raging teen hormones (well, not entirely), but because of the love stories. I’ve always gravitated to the happily-ever-afters in life. And now I write them.

Picture it. The dewy morning after a raucous night of drinking and dancing. Those crazy health nuts are out running and the sleepy dog owners are standing about wondering why they don’t have cats. Then you see him or her. You know, the perhaps still-a-little-drunk stagger or hobble. Dressed in what so clearly is last night’s attire. Head down, casting furtive glances about as they attempt to taxi or walk home.

Will I be the walk of shamer? Will I hang my head as soon as I encounter a reader who’s seen into my very….erm….active imagination? Will I wonder if they’re judging me? Will I wither and wish for a sinkhole to swallow me whole once I discover my mother in law has read one of my sex scenes?

Heck no! (Well, maybe a little in the case of my mother in law.) But, I’m not ashamed to say it. I write romance. That means that if my characters call for it, they will be getting it on. What can I say? They’re slaves to their hormones. But, if the seventy-five year old granny in my local chapter can announce that she’s just sold an erotic menage novella, I can look my readers in the eye and ask “Was it good for you?”

It’s not porn. It’s not dirty. It’s not evil. It’s just sex. And like romance, there’s something for everyone. From sweet to skin scorcher. We should all be so lucky to be getting some.

Game, Set, Match! Available now from The Wild Rose Press and Amazon.

5 comments:

Joanne Stewart said...

Excellent post, Nana. Now that I've got my first book published, I thought I'd have problems with that, with embarrassment of people reading my sex scenes. But then decided nope. I'm proud of my writing, including the love scenes. Great post.

Nana Malone said...

Thanks Joanne! Congrats on your publication :) Such a weird feeling. You write the book, you're proud of the book, then it only dawns on you later that, hey! there's sex in there. And people are going to read it. I'm learning to not sweat it. I wanted to be a romance author. this is part of the job. :)

Margaret Tanner said...

Great post Nana. I think I would be embarassed if my mother in law read one of my sex scenes. My mum would have been mortified. The "S" word wasn't mentioned in her day.
Cheers

Margaret

Nana Malone said...

Hi Margaret,

I've come up with a fool proof way of dealing with her reading my book. I'm going to put my hands over my ears and sing la-la-la-la. If that doesn't work, I'm going to find a pile of sand and stick my head in it ostrich style :)

Nana

Misty said...

I love your take on this, Nana! With my first book, I was put on the spot at a book club discussing it. The ladies immediately asked what my husband thought about my sex scenes and if he helped me out with the research! I laughed along with them, of course, and turned red, but told them the truth - he helped me research the guns and walked me through the fight scene toward the end of the book. The sex scenes were all my imagination, just like the plot and characters. :)

Game, Set, Match is a wonderful love story and the sex scenes are just right for the characters. Your voice is engaging, no matter what the scene entails!

Misty
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